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Let’s talk about the Divine Feminine. 

There are tons of statistics that show a direct link between having time with your girlfriends and your health. There is also a number of studies that focus on how the kind of company you keep influences your health.

I like to think of the Divine Feminine as being true to yourself 100%

So for this week I’m giving you an exercise I give my clients. 

No one else matters in this moment. Just you. So forget what Suzy thinks of Sally or what Johnny said about Melissa. Yours is the only opinion that matters.

Make a list of the people you spend the majority of your time with, then the people you spend some time with, then the people you rarely spend time with.

Now make a list of people you want to spend time with. The people who make you feel at ease, who don’t judge, who will tell you when you have spinach in your teeth. Who are the people that discuss interests with you? Politics, philosophy, science, health, healing, meditation, marital arts, interior decorating, landscaping, whatever! Who are the people who encourage you to unfurl your freak flag and let it wave from the tallest tower? When you get to see this/these people you feel safe and you want time to stop.

Now make a list of people who you dread seeing. Who are the people that make you feel like you need to put on makeup? That you have to transform yourself in some way to appease them. The people who talk about other people, judge other people, put people down. Who are the people in your life that exaughst you? When you leave you feel like you need a drink, shower, sleep?

Now look at your schedule for next week. What’s there that doesn’t need to be? Is there a lunch with someone from the second list? Call them and tell them you just won’t be able to make it this week. Then call someone from your first list and ask them to come for tea. 

Try just one change. Maybe you can’t eliminate a person from your second list. So schedule a juice date right after with someone from the first list.

This is your one and only life (maybe). What can you do, just one little thing, this coming week that brings someone who supports you into your life and/or reduces someone who brings you down?

Schedule it for this month. You’ve got 30 days to find time to do one new thing. With friends or on your own, either way!

Meeting once a week with a group or a good friend is honestly a HUGE boost to your wellbeing. All those good chemicals flood your brain and body. This is essential to your wellbeing. 

I’m an introvert. I don’t get energy by hanging out with a group of people. I enjoy groups but in small dosages. I do, however, notice when I haven’t interacted with other human beings for to long. Depression can be subtle. I went thru a period of time where I got rid of all the negative people in my life. If you were a downer, you were gone. Then I had a stretch of time that I felt very alone. I can tell you: It’s worth it. With room in my head and heart I made some amazing new friends, I spent so much more time with my best friend, and I met my current boyfriend. 

If I hadn’t made space for good things to come…

Full disclosure we don’t make it every week but my best friend and I strive to spend a good solid 5-6 hours at a local Korean Spa once a week. We generally make it 3x a month. We are both extremely busy women and it’s hard, but if you don’t have time for your bestie then what the hell are you doing with your time? I know all the excuses, I’ve said them all.